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Patrick R's avatar

Hmm. Doesn't this list pretty much describe you? Do you really want to spend a lot of time with someone who's so similar to you?

What about the thrill of growing and being challenged by someone who's very different, at least in some deep aspects?

My humbling experience is that, regardless of what we think we want, we have absolutely, zero control over who we fall in love with (or "click" with, or whatever you want to call it). My partner is completely unlike me, and it's infuriatingly wonderful. We've learned so much from each other, even as we evolve into two people who are so different from how they were when they first met.

The way I see it, since we don't control fate and encounters, all you can do is be extremely clear about what matters to you, live your life accordingly and then make sure you're completely upfront about it with everyone you meet.

And, in a way, you do this all the time, in your writing and expression. In fact, this post and its list is like a loving appreciation of yourself, of everything you've embodied. I just suspect that it could attract someone with qualities that will make you reconsider many points you thought were non-negotiable. ;-)

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Tanya Murphy's avatar

I ove this list Blake. I would only add the importance of being good at communication - especially emotionally.

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