I lapped up every word of this. And I'm speaking as a 40-year-old woman with a husband and son 🤣😅. Please God shoot me if my husband and I ever turn into those couples!!!!
Good news, I think the future looks a lot more communal and a lot less nuclear from what I'm seeing. I'm writing a post about it for next week actually, I'm going to try to incorporate some quotes from this!
For 13 years I walked / hitched the roads / wildernisses and slept the streets / forests of Europe.... Sooo many good & varied conversations, experiences, friendships. Some few & brief hard times..... mostly wonderful, educational, creative adventures. Now, nearly Half a century later I am about to depart for more .......
This made me smile. When I was 20, I had a very similar experience in an Austrian hotel/restaurant, watching older couples around me eat in silence, every once in a while one asking the other "do you need more butter" or "please pass the jam", like the fun had been sucked from their lives. I decided then and there to NEVER become those people, to travel and fill my life with exciting people and conversations always.
At 27 I met my now-husband, at the time a minor-league baseball player, and our life took us traveling all across the states and globe as he played baseball, which was great. And now at 45, long past those baseball years, we are near the age of those older couples I was watching back then. Sometimes at our lunches or dinners out, we don't have much to say to each other, and other times we do. Sometimes it's about our kids, sometimes it's about careers, sometimes it's about bigger life stuff, but it definitely is comfortable and not the exciting engagement you currently still have. There isn't much novelty in lives like ours now, where you're going through the motions of the routine, mostly for the sake of the kids who need stability and community (and who now, at ages 10 and 6 are getting to be very fun to talk to, but as you say, it's different). It's not to say it's not fulfilling in its own way, but it's comfortable, not novel.
My husband and I are set for a lunch date today and now I am going to be thinking of all of this as we sit there. What will we talk about? Are we "those" people now? We will see. :)
I lapped up every word of this. And I'm speaking as a 40-year-old woman with a husband and son 🤣😅. Please God shoot me if my husband and I ever turn into those couples!!!!
Good news, I think the future looks a lot more communal and a lot less nuclear from what I'm seeing. I'm writing a post about it for next week actually, I'm going to try to incorporate some quotes from this!
For 13 years I walked / hitched the roads / wildernisses and slept the streets / forests of Europe.... Sooo many good & varied conversations, experiences, friendships. Some few & brief hard times..... mostly wonderful, educational, creative adventures. Now, nearly Half a century later I am about to depart for more .......
This made me smile. When I was 20, I had a very similar experience in an Austrian hotel/restaurant, watching older couples around me eat in silence, every once in a while one asking the other "do you need more butter" or "please pass the jam", like the fun had been sucked from their lives. I decided then and there to NEVER become those people, to travel and fill my life with exciting people and conversations always.
At 27 I met my now-husband, at the time a minor-league baseball player, and our life took us traveling all across the states and globe as he played baseball, which was great. And now at 45, long past those baseball years, we are near the age of those older couples I was watching back then. Sometimes at our lunches or dinners out, we don't have much to say to each other, and other times we do. Sometimes it's about our kids, sometimes it's about careers, sometimes it's about bigger life stuff, but it definitely is comfortable and not the exciting engagement you currently still have. There isn't much novelty in lives like ours now, where you're going through the motions of the routine, mostly for the sake of the kids who need stability and community (and who now, at ages 10 and 6 are getting to be very fun to talk to, but as you say, it's different). It's not to say it's not fulfilling in its own way, but it's comfortable, not novel.
My husband and I are set for a lunch date today and now I am going to be thinking of all of this as we sit there. What will we talk about? Are we "those" people now? We will see. :)
I love this so much. Keeping it real, Meagan!